Wednesday, December 31, 2008

The Most Romantic Thing

Photo Mendocino

A couple we know commemorated their 40+ years of marriage with a big outdoor party. Their property is a plot of land in the woods near the coast in Northern California. They operate a small retreat center, and have had their share of ups and downs over the years. But on that day, they were truly able to celebrate their lives together.

One of their guests said to the man, “That’s a long time to be married and still be in love with each other. What’s your secret?”

Every now and then, I encounter a question-and-answer moment that seems to make time stand still. This was one of those moments. But the answer surprised me.

“A common vision,” he said.

That’s not the most romantic thing I’ve ever heard. But the more I thought about it, the more sense it made.

I’ve often thought that marriage is a lot like holding hands in a crowded mall. At first it’s delightful. But there’s so much to see and do. I slow down to read this on the left and she speeds up to have a look at that on the right, and all these people keep trying to get between us . . . You quickly decide that it’s easier to just let go and be two. That way, each of you can wander free, or maybe go separate ways altogether, and plan to meet up later to eat.

But when you both agree that walking hand in hand is what you really want to do, it changes everything. You get to share his intriguing read and her fascinating find together. And it’s a blast to discover how deftly you can navigate a crowd when you’re truly one.

That unity, that common vision, makes it possible to become and remain as one. And after 40+ years of life, that is the most romantic thing I’ve ever heard.

With this post, I’m completing my first year of the Loving Her Beautiful blog. Thank you so much for reading – and Happy New Year!

The retreat center mentioned above is Antioch Ranch in Mendocino, California.

6 comments:

  1. Wow! Congratulations on it being a year since you started Loving Her Beautiful ... I cant believe that through this wonderful world of blogland I have had the pleasure of reading your posts for over a year with tremendous pleasure

    To a New ... HAPPPY... Wonderful Year of blogging I raise my glass to you

    HUGS

    JO

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  2. Happy New Year, and happy "common vision".

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  3. Happy New Year!
    Thank for sharing your thoughts with us!
    Cheers, Sharon

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  4. This was the best illustration of a good marriage and coming together that I have ever read, especially since we were just at the mall and The General loves to hold hands and we literally, after being married so long go here for him and there for me...together...

    Many Blessings :)
    Ace

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  5. Thanks so much for writing this lovely post. I love to see couples that have been together for years still holding hands. :)

    Kris

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